{"id":25,"date":"2021-12-04T15:38:00","date_gmt":"2021-12-04T15:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drawadoor.com\/blog\/?p=25"},"modified":"2021-12-28T15:44:08","modified_gmt":"2021-12-28T15:44:08","slug":"whats-your-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drawadoor.com\/blog\/keydifference\/whats-your-why\/","title":{"rendered":"What’s Your Why?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A lot of my classes begin with getting clear about why<\/em><\/strong> we do what we do.\u00a0 If you\u2019re a Realtor \u2013 why are you a realtor?\u00a0 Why do you sell insurance?\u00a0 Why are you self-employed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The answer you come up with might be true or it might not.\u00a0 Ultimately, something happened and you took an action.\u00a0 Something else happened, and you took an action, and step by step by step, yadda, yadda, yadda, here you are, today doing whatever you do.\u00a0 Married to whoever you\u2019re married to.\u00a0 Driving whichever car you drive.\u00a0 Living in whatever place you\u2019re living in.\u00a0 You did this.\u00a0 It didn’t happen by accident. And, it\u2019s your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

None of this was specifically pre-ordained and I would argue, that for most of us, not a lot of it was planned.\u00a0 And if it was planned, was it planned in response to some event?\u00a0 I have a friend who hoards his money.\u00a0 Growing up, his father was a gambler and often left the family in the lurch for money.\u00a0 He promised to never do that when he was adult, so he invests, saves and hoards as a response.\u00a0 He set up his own wiring and is now \u201cstuck\u201d with that why — and no amount of money in the bank will ever be enough to change his behavior. Unless\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we can identify where out \u201cwiring\u201d comes from, we can then do something about it. \u00a0This is what I call “drawing a door.” Humans are merely stimulus response machines, and our responses get programmed over the years. When we can distinguish a thought process as one we created as a response to some past experience, we can then intervene and create new, more empowering responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Victor Frankl, author of \u201cMan\u2019s Search For Meaning\u201d says, \u201cBetween stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.\u201d  As far as we know, of the creatures on earth, humans are unique in this ability. Why not plug in to allow us to create more freedom and more choice in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have always stressed over money.  Thinking about money brings on a level of anxiety and stress that is so familiar I wouldn\u2019t know how to handle ease around it.  But I am shifting that response.  Last year I participated in a wealth building class that not only taught me more about managing money but also helped me understand my juvenile attitudes towards it and a more mature way to manage my money.  I stress less now than I ever did.  I have brought faith and trust and an action plan into my money management.  I have never been homeless.  I have never missed a meal due to poverty.  My money anxiety was a learned motivational response, and I am reprogramming that response with a focus on my why and a trust that it will go the way I am focused on having it go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we look at our why, we could look at past experiences that created a response to a threat or fear, real or perceived, that fixed a response we continue to justify and suffer with \u2013 or be empowered by it.\u00a0 But have you actually investigated it?\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We could look at a why from a commitment to a future.\u00a0 People become doctors because they genuinely want to heal others and have a love of caring for and making people well.\u00a0 My friend Brad became an insurance agent to help people protect themselves from unforeseen accidents and trauma.\u00a0 He was protected when his family was blindsided by a major illness, and he wants to make sure every family is protected.\u00a0 Perhaps his choice of professions was guided by circumstance and reaction, but what drives him to be successful, what motivates him to get up every day and make phone call and quote leads is his why \u2013 his vision to protect families and hard-earned wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A why can be a default response, a belief in that\u2019s how it needs to be.\u00a0 Or it can be created, as a vision for future that inspires you.\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why does it matter?\u00a0 Are we living life by default or are we creating our own experience that leaves us inspired, motivated, energized and fulfilled or just slogging through another day?\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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