{"id":87,"date":"2022-02-14T09:52:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-14T09:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drawadoor.com\/blog\/?p=87"},"modified":"2022-02-03T23:56:39","modified_gmt":"2022-02-03T23:56:39","slug":"unrealizable-fantasies-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drawadoor.com\/blog\/openmind\/unrealizable-fantasies-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Unrealizable Fantasies (part 2)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Last week I spoke about our \u201crules\u201d of life and how many of them stem from the list of \u201cUnrealizable Fantasies.\u201d\u00a0 Take a look at the list of unrealizable fantasies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Unrealizable<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Where do you see yourself and your upsets in this list?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unrealizable Fantasy #12:\u00a0 I should finish everything I start.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Do you need to finish everything that you start — so you\u2019re afraid to start any projects cause you know you\u2019re not going to get it done fast enough?  Which of your teachers or parents told you that you must finish everything you start? What if that weren\u2019t true? What if that rule didn\u2019t apply to you? Maybe you could start something and pass it off to somebody else? Maybe a partial or incomplete job is good enough for this particular circumstance?  Maybe it\u2019s worth starting and see where things go?  Action is the only thing that produces results so START TAKING ACTION!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unrealizable Fantasy #8:\u00a0 I should never have to fix things.<\/p>

Unrealizable Fantasy #10:\u00a0 things should never wear out.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Do you hate to buy new tires for your car? Or replace something that has broken? Do you believe that things should never wear out or things should never break? I have news for you –things wear out. Things break.  Yes, it\u2019s annoying and frustrating that we have to spend money to replace things we\u2019ve already paid for, and it\u2019s a fact of life. If the water heater in your home hasn\u2019t been replaced in over 12 years, celebrate that you got a good one, because they\u2019re not meant to last more than eight or nine. If you\u2019ve been wearing that same sweater since high school \u2013 well, it\u2019s time to go shopping but woohoo – look how long that thing lasted.  Things wear out.  Things break.  When you can accept that reality, replacing your set of tires just becomes something you do every few years and may become less of a stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unrealizable Fantasy #13:\u00a0 I should never fail at anything.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Failure is simply not achieving a desired goal or outcome \u2013 yet.  Sometimes we don\u2019t achieve the goals we set out to achieve.  If we can look at failure not as \u201cI failed\u201d with all the drama and emotion that can bring up, but as \u201cthat didn\u2019t work.  What else can I try,\u201d  we can have power over the circumstance.  We can take a critical look at our actions, the ways we took those actions, and create a new plan to keep working towards the goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you hit that goal, you might find out that that\u2019s not what you wanted anyway. Because you might have a belief like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unrealizable Fantasy #2:\u00a0 When I get X done it will solve all life\u2019s problems.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, reaching your goal doesn\u2019t provide exactly what you were looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider that behind every upset is some rule or some unrealizable fantasy.   When we can identify what that is, we create freedom and power to act and move forward. Unfortunately, it\u2019s difficult to see our own rules or fantasies at play.  We think our circumstances caused our upset leaving us powerless in the face of a breakdown.   That\u2019s where a business coach comes into play and that\u2019s my specialty, my expertise.  That\u2019s why I have a coach, coaches, who can see my rules cleared than I can.  It\u2019s a real wake up call when somebody says<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cwhy do you believe that\u201d and it helps create an opportunity, and allows me to  Draw a Door\u00ae to a new pathway — to leave behind stress and frustration with the circumstance — to move forward towards accomplishing what I am committed to accomplishing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Want to know more?  Just give me a call<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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